identity discovery · anti-transformation · over-optimization backlash
Recalibrate. Not Reinvent. Not Transform.
Four friends. Four different answers. And me — the woman who answers everything in three minutes flat — sitting on a list of maybes.
identity discovery
Who am I now that the old script is gone? What Gurus Call: "Wholehearted Authenticity Journey" or "Homecoming to Your True Self" What I Call: Identity Discovery | Unmasking. Wholehearted? Sure. Let me just find her first.
identity discovery · career transition · self realization
Was It a Cult, or a Dysfunctional Family?
I googled “how do you know if you are in a cult” at midnight. Every box checked me! My first instinct was to explain why that’s not the case. Think that’s what a cult member would do?
identity discovery · retirement myth · busier in retirement
Failing at Retirement
I left the 60-hour workweeks and somehow got busier in retirement — with nothing to show for it. My intentional move is to give myself actual room to figure this chapter out, beginning with one thing: the couch, Chris, Marvel movies, and Game of Thrones. Again.
identity discovery · personal growth · reflection for clarity
Drafted the Rookie: One with Long-Term Potential
Five years undefeated in fantasy football. Thirty years outsmarting men who called it a "lucky streak." Football was my corporate currency. Then I benched the old me and drafted the rookie — today's me.
identity discovery · aging gracefully · gendered ageism
Hostile Takeover: My Face Stages a Coup
One Photo. One comment. That's when I realized aging took over without permission. Now negotiating custody of my face - one unapologetic move at a time.
identity discovery · career change · life interrupted
Experience NOT Necessary: Restructured by AI
After 28 years at the same company, I got restructured. What shocked me most was RELIEF, not panic. It gave me the room to ask, "Who am I without my business card?" It's an Identity Exploration, figuring out who I am today, one unapologetic, intentional move in her direction.